HOW WHAT IS GOOD ABOUT BREASTFEEDING IS MADE BAD (PART 2)

The “closeness” of breastfeeding is something that both mothers and babies cherish, and yet it may become a point of contention between mothers and physicians, especially, somewhat surprisingly, pediatricians. And also between the mothers and their own families, all of whom may tell mothers that feeding the baby according to the baby’s needs (“on demand” a phrase that speaks volumes how normal breastfeeding is perceived) causes the baby to be “spoiled”, overly dependent, aggressively “needy”, unable to “self-soothe” and, of course, “demanding”.

 

Toddlers love to breastfeed

Photo 1. This twenty month old toddler loves to breastfeed, enjoys breastfeeding, and does not want to stop breastfeeding. He is breastfeeding for more than milk – he is breastfeeding because he loves to breastfeed.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

These adjectives would not be used in tribal societies not yet exposed to “modern ideas”, where babies are automatically breastfed, cuddled, held close and carried much of the time.  See photo 2. In modern societies, the needs of the baby have more and more become subservient to the parents’ needs and breastfeeding babies are required to be “efficient” and not impose on their parents.

 

The notion that breastfeeding is merely a delivery system for milk leads to other wrongheaded advice from health professionals. So frequently mothers are told that a baby does not need to feed during the night by 6 to 9 months of age (some pediatricians will say even by 4 months of age), so the fact that your 7 month old baby is still waking up in the night means he has a sleep problem and needs “sleep training”. How was it decided that a baby waking in the night is abnormal behaviour? Bottle feeding mentality!  Bottle feeding formula often “stuffs” the baby at the “last” feeding of the day and so the baby sleeps longer.  Bottle feeding parents are also more likely to “sleep train” their babies, which, essentially ignores the needs of the baby and teaches the baby to ignore his own needs.

Why is breastfeeding not always “ideal”, “beautiful”, as suggested above?

 

Unfortunately, breastfeeding is not always ideal or as beautiful as suggested above, not by a long shot.  Many problems arise for many mothers and babies, most often because mothers are not getting started with breastfeeding in the ideal and beautiful way and not getting good help during those crucial first days or even after the first few days either.  Mothers get sore nipples, sore breasts, the baby is not getting enough from the breast or the mother is not getting the help that she needs in order to get the baby more milk from the breast.  Even something as simple, (simple, if the helper is experienced and skilled), as how to latch a baby on is rarely taught well.  Mothers are burdened with “rules” on how to breastfeed, such as “feed the baby on only one breast at a feeding“, feed the baby by the clock, use a nipple shield, interrupt breastfeeding for medications all of which lead frequently to difficult breastfeeding.  In some countries, particularly the US, maternity leave is so inadequate, so pitiful, that breastfeeding often stops because the baby refuses the breast after being bottle fed much of the day, or the mother’s milk supply decreases and cannot kept up with pumping.  And so many more ways breastfeeding is messed up for the mother and baby.

 

One example of how equating bottle feeding to breastfeeding causes problems for the mother and baby.  From the article mentioned in the first line.

 

From a mother’s email: “My baby was not gaining weight well, so the doctor suggested that I pump my milk and feed the baby by bottle so that we know how much he is getting.”  There is so much wrong in this one sentence, which, unfortunately, is a frequent suggestion to mothers of babies not gaining well on breastfeeding alone!

 

This “suggestion” by the doctor implies that what a mother can pump is what the baby gets from the breast.  This, from both clinical experience and more than one study, is clearly not true.  A baby who is latched on well and breastfeeding well can get more than the mother can pump.  A baby who is latched on poorly will usually not breastfeed well and thus get less from the breast than the mother can pump.  If the mother can pump as much as the baby needs for the baby to gain weight well, then the baby should be able to gain weight well by breastfeeding only.  When dealing with breastfeeding issues, the mother and baby need competent help in order to get the baby breastfeeding well.  If, on this suggestion, the mother cannot pump or express all the milk the baby needs, the mother will be discouraged and may abandon breastfeeding altogether.  Many mothers whose babies are gaining weight well breastfeeding exclusively cannot pump or express milk in sufficient quantities for the baby’s requirements. Pumping or expressing tells us only about the mother’s ability to pump or express, it has nothing do with breastfeeding, no matter how much some people try to identify pumping with breastfeeding.

 

Furthermore, the baby’s “requirements” are based on what a formula fed, bottle fed baby would need and there is no evidence that quantities based on the formula fed baby requirements apply to the exclusively breastfed baby’s needs.

 

Even if there is breastmilk in the bottle, bottle feeding being a completely different feeding method and the flow from the bottle being constant implies that the baby will drink different quantities of milk than from the breast and would likely drink too much.  Breastmilk is different and studies seem to show that between one and five months after birth, a mother’s milk supply does not increase substantially.  Breastmilk whose composition changes with time is different from formula that is constant in composition (if prepared properly) and thus, to make up for the inadequacy of formula, the formula fed baby’s requirements increase with increasing weight.

 

What is most wrong about the advice given to the mother mentioned above is that too often the baby, after being on bottles for several days or longer, refuses to take the breast again.  And that loss is a big loss, because breastfeeding is more than a method of delivering milk to a baby.  Breastfeeding, actually feeding the baby at the breast, is both a physical and emotional relationship, a close intimate relationship between two people who almost always love each other very much.  Bottle feeding, even when there is breastmilk in the bottle, does not duplicate this relationship in any way.

 

See also the articles Breastfeeding a Toddler and The Right to Breastfeed

 

Copyright: Jack Newman, MD, FRCPC, 2017

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